“Don’t be afraid. Fight for your homes, your wives, your sons and your daughters.” Nehemiah 4:14
Just a few hours ago I got home from a weekend Men’s Retreat. We did the usual “man stuff” of eating red meat, shooting guns, watching football and as Donkey said to Shrek, “swapping manly stories.” Basically, it was two days of testosterone-filled, manly awesomeness. All of that was fun, but the real “meat” of the retreat came when we charged into God’s Word and began to explore what it really means to be a man. It turns out there’s a lot more to it than eating red meat and watching football.
I believe that most of the world’s problems can be traced back to one single problem…Men behaving like Boys. When men will step up and be the humble, loyal, courageous, servant-hearted leaders God has called us to be, then more peace will return to our homes, our churches and our nations. God has placed the responsibility to restore our homes and nations on men’s shoulders. It’s not that women can’t handle this burden, it’s that they shouldn’t have to to!
It’s impossible to cover all God’s Word says about authentic manhood in a single blog post, but here are a few highlights to get us started on the right track. If we as men will do these things, God will bless the results…
Lead your family towards Jesus, keep your mind and heart pure (that means be careful what you’re looking at and never look at porn), invite accountability into your life, give your close Christian friends permission to call you out when they need to, be in the Word daily, Pray (and more often than just before meals), treasure your wife, make time with your kids a priority, don’t prioritize any hobbies ahead of your family, remove from your life anything that is making your a less effective husband and father, make church attendance and involvement a priority, create a safe, fun and life-giving environment in your home, give clear boundaries and consistent encouragement to your children, don’t lose your temper if front of your family, show your wife love and affection, don’t get drunk, don’t play the victim, work hard to provide for your family, be responsible and disciplined with your finances, accept responsibility. Be a man of God!
As a final note, we also saw the new movie “Courageous“ this weekend, and I highly recommend it! If every man in America watched this movie, our nation (and our families) would be a lot better off! Let’s join together as to be the Courageous Generation God has called us to be!