Apart from your relationship with God, there is no more important and more intimate relationship in the universe than the relationship of Marriage. It is a beautiful gift, designed by God, to bring one man and one woman together in a physical, emotional and even spiritual bond.
What I’m about to say might offend you, but as your Brother in Christ, I love you enough to offend you with the Truth, so here goes…If you are a Christian and you are dating a Non-Christian, you need to break up! If you are already married, that is a completely different scenario, but if you aren’t married, I can say with Biblical certainty that God’s Will is NOT for you to commit your life to someone who is not following Him. Don’t take my word for it, listen to what God says on the subject…
“Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers…How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?” 2 Corinthians 6:14-15
“The men of Judah have defiled the Lord’s beloved sanctuary by marrying women who worship foreign gods” Malachi 4:11
“You are not to give your daughters in marriage to their sons, nor are you to take their daughters in marriage for your sons or for yourselves. Was it not because of marriages like these that Solomon king of Israel sinned?” Nehemiah 13:25-26
This Bible has a lot more to say on this subject and I encourage you to study it on your own. This brings up some important questions that you might be asking…
1. But I really “love” this person. Isn’t that enough? No. God is love and God loves you. He wants what is best for you. You might need to readjust your view of love and marriage from what we see in Romantic Comedies to what we see in God’s Word. If you are willing to disobey God for somebody you want to marry then what you feel isn’t real love.
2. But doesn’t God want to me keep dating this person so I can lead them to Jesus? No. There is a much better chance that they will lead you to bed. I’m sure you have good intentions, but God never intended you to be a dating evangelist.
3. But we’re so compatible! We have so much in common? Isn’t that enough? No. If the most important relationship in your life is Jesus and the most important relationship in their life is something else, you’ll be pulling in two separate directions. That is an irreconcilable difference that trumps the fact that you really like the same movies and music.
4. So I should just break their heart and my own? Yes. If that’s what it takes. Too much is at stake to do anything else. You need to trust the broken pieces of your heart to God and know that He is pleased when our faith leads us to tough choices. As for your boyfriend/girlfriend, keep praying for them and believing that God will reach them. Before you jump into a new relationship, make Jesus the first and foremost relationship in your life and then trust Him to bring the right person in the right time.
5. What if I can’t find somebody else? Trust God. Pray and be patient. God will often ask you to wait for His Best, but He will never ask you to settle for anything less than His best!
6. What if I’m already married? Pray. Pray for your spouse and for yourself. The Bible is clear that if your spouse is willing to stay married, then you should stay married.
The bottom line is that we should all be willing to trade in our own opinions and our own feelings for God’s Truth. Following Him means that we are willing to trust Him even when our feelings and emotions are telling us to do something else. Know that God has good things in store for you.
“For I know the plans I have for you declares the LORD; plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11